Pen It Down

As much as we may not want to admit this, there are so many people out there suffering from the emotional wreckage, and still, have no way out of it. This slowly destroys the humanity-nature in them and ruin their perception of things and life in general to dangerous levels. Unlike physical injury which dries up after sometimes and healing is manifest, emotional hurting can be hard to recover from depending on the victim’s way of handling issues. However, there are ways in which one can recover from this tormenting emotional pain to wholeness once again.

But before we look at that, let’s first understand what is emotional /mental hurt.

This is a very deep pain or torture, that one experiences after facing some detachment from a person or a thing that was so dear to him/her. This can be as a result of a breakup, death, loss, breach of trust, or rejection. Facing such a situation can be heart wrecking, and often than not, one may feel a sense of hopelessness, regret, and guilt for the occurrences, even if they were beyond their control. The feel of being a failure slowly engraves the victim making them feel that there was something that they were supposed to do to save the situation but failed to.

So here are 5 stages of emotional healing

1. Avoidance/denial

This happens immediately and so naturally, after the loss, when the mind can’t decode the fact that it has already happened and instead tries to hide from the reality. In this stage, one may find his/her mind being easily detracted ie. losing concentration, or addicting into some behaviors such as watching, overeating, or even isolation. One is deeply grieved and it appears like life will never be the same again, it’s completely shattered.

2. Anger/ Confrontation

In this stage, one has slowly accepted that it happened, and is now super angry that it did. It is at this stage that one feels that there is something that would have been done to save the situation but wasn’t. However, one still does not understand why it had to happen to him/ her and as a result erupts to fists of anger and blame, either to oneself or to others. This is a very sensitive phase and sometimes people can be stuck in it for a long time. Being able to name the issue at hand and looking at it as a separate entity marks the end of the anger stage.

3. Experience

Now that one is still delicately emotional by the situation, it’s always good to allow the emotions welling up from within to manifest. Getting in touch with the emotions and letting them out. If it is sorrow, cry out and let the tears flow freely for as long as they want. One shouldn’t block in what they feel be it anger, sorrow, jealousy, or anything, for by letting them out, a wave of relief sweeps in and one can face things more objectively.

4. Action

Here one is now almost free of much emotions and is ready to face the reality. It is at this stage that one critically looks at the situation and analyzes the root cause. By doing so one gets a clear picture of the situation and is ready to take the next step, soberly.

5. Acceptance/ Recovery

At this point, one has accepted the situation and the next step seems crystal clear. Though one feels a great sense of emptiness, there seems to be a flicker of hope ahead. One feels energized to move on and sometimes grateful that whatever happened happened. This is the best point to make changes and become better.

Healing is a process that we must undergo to achieve it. With all the life’s beauty, it would be unfair to forever remain stuck in past pain. Face it today and let a new life unfold.